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		<description><![CDATA[// September 1977, Song # 8 Glancing around the overflowing room, Andrew shoves his hands deep into the pockets of his jeans Clenches his fist around some loose change jingling He knows that he&#8217;s a failure at small talk and mingling So he leans against a helpful wall feeling out of tune And deep inside... <a href="http://markshepardsongs.com/andrew/"> [Continue Reading]</a>]]></description>
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		<title>Boredom</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 24 Oct 2008 13:59:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Boredom 10/19/08  &#124;  Song #384 How many guys tonight will Buy you drinks and tell you Just how hot you are But you know what they want to sell you…. Excruciating Boredom…. I’m not one of the puppies I don’t care if you like me Do not need your approval Raise your bitch shield just... <a href="http://markshepardsongs.com/boredom/"> [Continue Reading]</a>]]></description>
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Boredom
10/19/08 	&#124;  Song #384
How many guys tonight will
Buy you drinks and tell you
Just how hot you are
But you know what they want to sell you….
Excruciating Boredom….
I’m not one of the puppies
I don’t care if you like me
Do not need you[...]</itunes:subtitle>
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Boredom
10/19/08 	&#124;  Song #384
How many guys tonight will
Buy you drinks and tell you
Just how hot you are
But you know what they want to sell you….
Excruciating Boredom….
I’m not one of the puppies
I don’t care if you like me
Do not need your approval
Raise your bitch shield just to spite me
It just excites me…
Stop looking in the mirror
Peek outside your bubble
Buy me a beer and I will
Let you come a little nearer
Unless of course you are too boring…
Refrain:
I’m here to rescue you from boredom
I’m here to tease you into freedom…
Explore the edge of all your limits…
You know you want it. Now admit it…
You tell yourself you want somebody
Who will treat you like a lady
But what would it be like to be
With someone who took you much less seriously?…
And rescued you from boredom…
Who knows just how you’re wired
Who knows what buttons move you
Who knows just how to lead you
Where you want to go…
Escape with me from boredom…
Refrain:
You can always go suburban
Get yourself a nice safe husband
Give birth to 2 nice children
It’s a story with a happy end…
Excruciating Boredom…
I’m not the guy who you would
Take home to your family…
But when you’re in your eighties
You will remember me
And how I rescued you from boredom…
Refrain :
copyright 2008 by Mark Shepard. All Rights Reserved
Commentary: This song was inspired by the work of Ron Louis and David Copeland, two dating coaches for men who I've gotten to know over the years. Ron and I have been talking for sometime about doing a workshop to help painfully shy guys clear their old fear around women programs.  Basically Ron's story is a lot like mine. He suffered from agoraphobia and eventually got fast help with NLP. I don't know David as well but the bottom line is that these guys created a powerful home study course (which I reviewed on http://www.squidoo.com/datingapproachanxiety ) on how to have fun engaging conversations with women that build attraction through connection and disconnection. They call it "The Advanced Bad Boy Training Course" and it's main purpose is to give the "nice" guy or the shy, nerdy man the tools to hold his own in conversation with the kinds of women who can totally destroy a guy's self esteem in seconds.
So, true to my compulsive songwriting habit, I wrote a song from the perspective of this alpha male style approach (vs. the "nice guy" or "boring nervous bonehead" approach) that Ron and David are advocating for men.
BTW for my wonderful feminist fans, this is not in any way about manipulating, or using or taking advantage of women. This is not remotely misogynistic. It's basically giving guys the tools to play on the same conversational playing field that women enjoy relating on. The reason you find so many of us guys dreadfully  dull, boring and even creepy is that we just don't have a clue how to actually interact with high quality women like you.
So please listen to the song and let me know what you think in the comments section below.
thanks! - Mark
Some other links that might be of interest:
How To Succeed With Women
How To Stop Anxiety
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